Dialogue, Power, and Nonviolent Resistance

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It is not non-violence if we merely love those that love us. It is non-violence only when we love those that hate us.
— Gandhi

Painting these watercolor portraits of Gandhi helped Malekeh Nayiny find an inner path toward healing. From the Tikkun Daily Art Gallery.


I have been thinking, for years now, about Gandhi’s invitation to be nonviolent in thought, word, and action. It’s only this past week that it finally dawned on me that in many instances, nonviolence in action is easier than nonviolence in word, which in turn is easier than nonviolence in thought. Many more groups and individuals worldwide, for example, have refrained from physical violence when engaging in social change action while at the same time harboring hatred of those in positions of power. For an extreme example, most people don’t kill anyone even though it’s known that many people entertain fantasies of killing. Our habitual thoughts are deeply ingrained, and require ongoing active and conscious practice to transform. I am not surprised to discover that both Gandhi and Martin Luther King, in different ways, wanted their biggest legacy to be how they lived much more than their external achievements. As I think about what it means to live in a nonviolent way, I keep coming back to the clear insight I’ve had that all of us can be nonviolent when everyone does exactly what we want them to do. The test of our nonviolence is precisely when people do things we don’t like. Whether individuals in our personal life, co-workers, people we supervise, or bosses at work, or those with significant economic, social, or political power – the challenge is the same. Something profoundly changes when we take on loving everyone. This love is of a unique kind. It isn’t about wanting to be everyone’s friend. It’s not even about liking what people do. For me, it’s about two core bottom commitments. One is to maintain complete awareness of that person’s humanity, and therefore uphold their dignity in all our choices about how to respond. The other is to continually aim for solutions that attend to that person’s needs, as best we understand them. Both of these are internal matters, and they tell us nothing about the specific kinds of actions to take in response to what we don’t like. At the same time, those intentions completely affect how we might choose to respond in those times when someone else’s actions are at odds with our own human needs.

Nonviolent Resistance and Coercion

Any time any of us engages in unilateral action, in some significant way others’ well-being is affected. I have yet to meet a human being who enjoys being coerced. All other things being equal, then, I see nonviolence as closely related to a commitment to non-coercion. This kind of commitment is easiest to maintain in an interpersonal context of equal power and shared willingness to engage in collaborative processes. The parties involved in the conflict can then engage in dialogue, identify everyone’s needs, hear each other, with or without the support of a third party, and arrive at solutions that attend to as many needs as possible, together. That’s what we do with friends, lovers, co-workers, and housemates.

Selma, Alabama, 1965

 
The commitment to non-coercion becomes progressively more challenging the more people are involved, the more power differences exist in the situation, and the less willingness we find on the part of those whose actions we are calling into question. It also becomes more challenging the more abhorrent to us the action of the others is. I find it utterly understandable why people resort to terrorism in so many contexts where their level of powerlessness is extreme, the assault on their basic human dignity is profound, the scope of harm being done is extensive, and the prospects of getting anywhere with peaceful means seem so grim. With all my understanding, I am also aware that in precisely those kinds of contexts Gandhi, Martin Luther King, and a growing number of people around the world have found nonviolent ways of responding.
What is of interest to me here is the relationship between nonviolent resistance and coercion. If an organized group of activists engages in nonviolent resistance the result of which is regime change, did these people impose their will on those in power? If so, in what way is their action “nonviolent?” If not, what is really going on other than coercion?
What has helped me think about these questions is recognizing that the answers by necessity require more delving into the dynamics of power and violence. We all have amazingly robust internalized habits of relating to power that live in us in response to living, for so many thousands of years, in authority-based societies. Those with power are habituated to getting their way, even without an active intent to coerce others. Those with less power are habituated to going along without true consent, often without awareness of having made a choice, and at other times with a clear sense of making a disempowered choice out of fear of consequences.
When those with less power remove their willingness to go along, those with power may very well experience it as a form of coercion. One example I came across some years ago was research done on the experiences of divorced men, most of whom didn’t pay child support, and many of whom felt angry and had the experience of being “dominated” by their former wives, when in reality what the researchers believed was happening was a small amount of equalization of power.
I view nonviolent resistance in much the same way. It has long been known that even tyrants rule more because of some implicit sense of legitimacy that keeps people obeying them rather than just because of the sheer force of physical intimidation. If enough people, en masse, rise up and refuse to participate, those who rule lose that delicate balance of legitimacy, and eventually must resign. In some small technical sense they are being “forced.” It makes more sense to me, instead, to think of it as rebalancing of power that reshapes the range of options available to the rulers. The option of ruling at the expense of others is simply no longer available when enough people stop cooperating.
One of the particular ways that nonviolent resistance works is precisely by undermining the source of support of the rulers. This is particularly evident when members of bodies such as the army or secret police begin to defect rather than continue to support the regime. The more violent the regime’s repression in the face of nonviolent resistance, the harder it is to maintain any semblance of legitimacy.

Nonviolent Resistance and Love

If love is fundamental to nonviolence, what is its place within nonviolent resistance? How can love co-exist with unilateral action designed to change the power balance and reshape the options available to those in power?
If we are to love those who hate us, as Gandhi says, or our enemies, as Jesus framed it, the first aspect of love within nonviolent resistance is in how we view those in power. To me, this form of love has an effect on us no less than the effect it has on the other. I remember the years in which I was role-playing George Bush at a time when the overwhelming majority of those who came to my workshops were full of hatred and derision toward him. What was most significant was how I felt my heart growing and growing as I learned, viscerally, to have more and more understanding for his experience and some of his choices. I never changed my mind, never came to like choices that I imagined would be disastrous, and yet my inner experience was dramatically altered. I want us to be able to see the humanity of everyone, including those we would ultimately want to incarcerate to maintain everyone’s safety.
As a corollary to opening our hearts to seeing the humanity of the person whose behavior we want to change, we naturally develop an interest in their well-being, and an intention to work for an outcome that includes their needs. Even in the absence of dialogue, even through transforming societal structures, even if it means they experience loss of power, we can aim to address the fundamental human needs of our enemies. In the long run, unless we find a way to attend to everyone’s needs, we will perpetuate war. I find it tragic that so many people who engage in nonviolent action remain nonviolent only in action, and continue to engage in forms of speech, and certainly thoughts, that are dehumanizing of those in power.
Love features in nonviolent resistance in one more way. In some way, nonviolent resistance is the only nonviolent option available when those in power don’t respond to an invitation to dialogue. At least some of the time we can even view nonviolent resistance as the action necessary to re-create the conditions to allow dialogue to happen. Gandhi and many other leaders were always ready and willing to engage in dialogue even while putting enormous pressure on those in power by mobilizing masses of people to participate in nonviolent resistance. Even when our hearts are open and when we are able to choose a path that holds active care for the needs of those who oppose our goals, to whatever degree we achieve our aims without their active and willing participation, we run the risk of breeding resentment and the rise of eventual counter-movements. A world that works for me and not for some people in power is no better than the world that works for them and not for me. What I want, what the love implies, is envisioning, engaging in dialogue, and even organizing nonviolent resistance in order to create a world that truly works for everyone, even our former enemies.

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  1. I am not sure about the humanity of tyrants. I am not sure that given a world that works for a tyrant too, that a tyrant will not find a way to take power back. It’s not their fault, but tyrants are just not nice happy people. From their point of view if they aren’t in control of your life, they think it’s something that needs correcting. And unfortunately a world that works for them at all risks becoming a world that works only for them. The way that Picasso “had” to draw, Napoleon “had” to control.

    • this reminds me of the great philosophical-theological arguments of the ages……….are we controlled by blind fate and random chance, or do we have meaning and purpose to our existence and suffering……?
      ……were we born sinners, or full of potential for great happiness and love….?
      ……..is there a direction toward peace, reconciliation and love, or are we out of control, spinning toward inevitably horrific destruction in a world with no soul?………….i find within myself arguments and changes around that question……….somehow knowing i’ll probably never know for sure…………..but that even so, how gladly and quickly i’d embrace the positive, promising view……….

    • one more thing………..you say with what sounds like sincerity, that you’re not sure tyrants are able to change………….i fully agree and support that………..i know how hard it is to keep faith in the ‘goodness’ (utter humanity) of the perpetrator especially when they are in my face, directly threatening my dignity and safety………(like the nearly traumatizing photo above of the standoff in Selma, years ago.
      the utter fear and rage at the cruelty in the stance of the police is truly nearly impossible to ‘remake’ into love, compassion and nonviolence………
      nevertheless, i hate to give up the hope, and i deeply desire the transformation to begin………..and to share that hope with people around me……..

  2. This reminds me of a time when I was in Palestine with a Palestinian who had taken a group of international women through a beautiful area with a small river [rare in Palestine]west of Nablus. Israeli settlements on the hill tops encircled the the lovely valley with ripening orange groves. I asked the Palestinian what would happen to these settlers when Palestine was free. He replied that it was a medieval idea to think that the settlers and the Palestinians could not live together peacefully. He said that if the settlers will not harm the Palestinians they can stay in a free Palestine.
    So the effort of most Palestinians is to balance the power, share the power and live together peacefully, even with Israeli settlers.

  3. This is a very important debate. And thank you for raising some good questions. One distinction i draw that helps keep me clear is one inspired by Paulo Freire’s pedagogy and philosophy. He writes: “Every relationship of domination, of exploitation, of oppression, is by definition violent, whether or not the violence is expressed by drastic means. In such a relationship, dominator and dominated alike are reduced to things – the former dehumanized by an excess of power, the latter by lack of it. And things cannot love. When the oppressed legitimately rise up against their oppressor, however, it is they who are usually labelled “violent,” “barbaric,” “inhuman” and cold. (Among the innumerable rights claimed by the dominating consciousness is the right to define violence, and to locate it. Oppressors never see themselves as violent.)”
    From this i use the term “coercion” to define a form of violence – when someone with an excess of power (or privilege) uses that excess at someone else’s expense. That people performing non-violent resistance (whether the informal behaviour of an individual responding to someone with tight-lipped silence or the more formal action of a trained and rehearsed group putting their bodies on the line) should be seen to be “coercive” by those being resisted is what Freire is here naming so eloquently. It is false. It is a hegemonic reversal designed to undermine and confuse. Nonviolent resistance, i suggest, is mutually exclusive of coercion.
    I agree heartily with the need to “delv[e more deeply] ing into the dynamics of power and violence.” I was shocked to read in an anarchist journal (for which i have a lot of respect) the following: “Even though it is not yet explicit about its aspirations, the implicit violence of non-violent direct action challenges the very essence of bourgeois rule.” Seriously? The “implicit violence of non-violen[ce]”? You might as well talk about the “implicit blueness of whiteness” or the “implicit sourness of sweetness”. It could be good poetry but it’s pretty pathetic reasoning. And stems precisely from the failure to grasp properly the “dynamics of power and violence”.
    Thanks again for sharing this thinking.

  4. Mahtama MK Gandhi, like Israeli leaders, double standard when it came to non-violence. He always preached 180 million Hindu low-caste (Harijan) and Muslim minority to use non-violence against the Hindu extremists. In 1930s, Gandhi even advised Chaim Weisman that European Jews instead of emigrating to Palestine – should use non-violent protests in the ancstral western lands to combat Jewish hatred. The advice was rejected by the leaders of WZO, some of whom joined the Nazi party later.
    Don’t rush to call Gandhi an ‘antisemitic’. According to Gandhi’s Jewish biographer, Joseph Lelyveld, Gandhi had a Jewish gay boyfriend. Though the author ignore to mention that Gandhi’s 17-year-old personal secretary in South Africa, Sonja Schlesin (1888-1956) was also Jewish……
    http://rehmat1.com/2011/03/29/gandhi%e2%80%99s-secret-love-for-jews/

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