Unemployment, Fear, and What We Can Do
by: Lita Kurth on July 20th, 2010 | 14 Comments »
- A manager in a failing department store runs to the bathroom and throws up, consumed with the fear of losing her health benefits which, even with COBRA, will cost too much.
- A teacher wakes up multiple nights a week with his whole body clenched, dreading that California’s annual pink slip won’t be retracted this time.
- A factory worker grieves the loss of friendship and socializing at work as much as the lost income.
Very likely everyone reading this knows someone who has recently lost a job. Unemployment is a strange word; defined negatively, it fails to convey the meaning of an often devastating experience (though one that, together, we can mitigate). In a society that has allowed many supportive institutions to atrophy, job loss looms even more menacingly than it would elsewhere. Added to the practical economic blows are wrenching emotional wounds: fear, self-blame, despair, and lowered self-esteem.
The late Cambridge University professor Marie Jahoda (a Jew and former prisoner of the Austrian Fascists) noted in an important 1982 article, that having a job “imposes a time structure on the waking day; it compels contacts and shared experiences with others outside the nuclear family; it demonstrates that there are goals and purposes which are beyond the scope of an individual but require a collectivity.” Unfortunately, for too many, work is the only significant collective activity they have outside the nuclear family.
The Toll of Unemployment
Alone in a one-bedroom apartment, or at home with a worried and dependent family, unemployed people can suffer severe stress. Womenslaw.org reported that when a male experienced two or more episodes of unemployment, he was almost three times as likely to be violent toward his female partner as when employed. The Suicide Prevention Resource Center notes that the anticipation as well as the actuality of “humiliation, shame, or despair” associated with unemployment brings some vulnerable people to suicide. An unemployed worker quoted on the National Employment Law website said, “I pray to God every day for those of us who have lost our homes, cars, basic necessities, and most of all, our dignity.”
The dominant culture (not necessarily the majority, but the most visible in the media and marketplace) says, “You are your job title. You are your possessions.” This is a mindset we need to actively rebut with both words and deeds.
Because of my family history of poverty and living on the fringe of society, my own experiences of unemployment or underemployment have brought with them bouts of visceral dread and anguish. The nightmare appears before me of not having a place, both literally and socially, of knocking on the glass walls of society and being refused entry, of having no cloak to hide my vulnerabilities, no listeners to my cries, no way to connect or become visible.
The Consumer Culture’s Idiotic Answers
A quick Google scan reveals socially and spiritually bankrupt suggestions for the unemployed. They usually come in ten easy answers, some as ludicrous as turning to a “hot celebrity hairstyle.” But most focus on individualist solutions: positive self-talk, better job research, networking, etc. It’s all about what I can do about my problem.
Ofer Sharone of the Institute for Labor and Mental Health, noted in an article about unemployment and self-blame (in last September’s Tikkun) that “A real solution must be collective in nature.” I vehemently agree.
Where Can We Begin?
I hope to have a lot more to say about solutions in future postings, but for now, let me sprinkle a few grains of hope.
Because of our extreme focus on work (and consumption?) we may have missed participating in or even knowing about groups that have been there all along, steadily working for the common good. Once you start looking, you’ll find inspiring organizations everywhere that are absolutely free to join: religious-affiliated organizations like the Sacred Heart Community Center planting gardens in low-income back yards, offering free food and interview clothing, helping people with utility bills, and financial hurdles to citizenship; Twelve-step groups giving people a place to be heard and supported as they grow spiritually and serve others; the Working Class Studies Association offering conferences and a monthly calendar to connect many small efforts to help working people on every level and spread the truth about their lives.
Because of the blessings I’ve received from my connection to non-work groups and because I know how critical it is for people with minimized financial resources to connect, I plan to start a weekly unemployment support group in my home if I have no job this fall.
Joining these group endeavors gets us out of our self-obsessive head and into a bigger world where we need to be to create collective solutions to our collective problems.




THis is a really important subject that is not discussed enough; the emotional and social costs of unemployment. It truly is a subject that we consider a personal problem even in the face of the current numbers of unemployed. I stopped working by choice to raise children, but when I need to go back to work this winter, I worry that the “gaps” in my employment will be hard to overcome. Thoughtful article, thanks.
My situation is very similar. Thank you very much for your comments. One thing we do know is that even the Great Depression did not last forever. I am certain that sharing our journeys helps us to put the struggle in context and be as effective as we can given the context. I have seen over and over again that committed groups come up with better solutions than individuals working alone.
Thanks so for emphasizing something that needs constant attention, even in ‘better times’. The social picture is the tremendous side that’s so badly neglected. This is about the basic fabric of our world, deserving every effort. You’ve put it back in realistic perspective, and have done a great service by sharing your thoughts.
shira
America exists on chaos and fear tactics for the masses!!! Keep Americans in chaos and fear and you will be able to control the people!!!
Thanks for this sensitively written article. I’m struck by the commonalities between the emotional states you describe for those who are dealing with unemployment and what is experienced by at home parents. As a degree-holding, at-home parent of three I am often aware of how tightly connected our ideas of self-esteem are with the ability to earn money in our society. With a job comes a (convenient) label. Our society loves labels. Saying “I’m an engineer” or “I’m a nurse” readily identifies us and gives the person a way to categorize us. Personally, I have felt the need to expunge the phrase “stay-at-home mom” from my vocabulary because “staying at home” does not represent the work I do. And yet, since it is convenient to have a working description of how you contribute to society, I feel like I need a label too, but I viscerally reject the one that is often used to describe the work I do. The emotional world of those who do work that is not paid is definitely a topic that needs more discussion. Thanks for the article.
As a SAHD, I absolutely agree with you. I struggle with this and the assigned gender baggage that comes with it in addition to the connection with paid-work=worth (esp. male worth). This is brutally hard stuff to deal with. Disclaimer: I do earn money, from being a sports official and an author, it’s just that it’s not enough to live on or be a “provider”… so there’s my special bent of crazy to struggle with, LOL.
Thanks for doing great research and tying many aspects of unemployment together to help those who are unemployed and those with friends who are unemployed realize they are not alone with the stresses they feel, and often must keep secret. I love how you ended your article with grains of hope!
Thank you Lita for exploring this subject. So many suffer from unemployment now. The loss of a job is difficult, I get a reminder of this when I hear of the violent extremes people go to in their states of despair. You are right, blame doesn’t rest with the individual “not making enough effort”, it is the capitalist structure of this earth. I hate those “network more, send out more resumes” solutions, we need to find a new system of finance. Definitely a group effort! And your thoughts on the relationship of self image and work is right on. We are not our label. Thank you for the resources, thank you for offering to have a group in your home. Judy
Thanks everyone. I’d really like to hear from people what kinds of support they’ve created or discovered while unemployed. To be honest, I think it was only when the unemployed and dispossessed started getting organized that the government was finally motivated to take serious steps. Even today I heard a Harvard professor on NPR’s Talk of the Nation make the outrageous suggestion that people who’d made $50,000 a year should contact their employers and ask to have their old jobs back at $25,000 a year. And we wonder why the top 1 % is growing like crazy while the middle class withers away.
This is a wonderful article. So many forget or ignore the true suffering that is all around us. It is a slipery slope at best. It takes time to realize that we may not be able to control our own destiny. The longer we go without work the real it becomes. This is class warfare; a return to serfdom. This is a scheme that they have crafted very well. The upper crust will drain us of all resource and dignity. The sooner we understand the sooner we can assemble and fight back. Wonderful start: Obama letting the Bush Tax Cut expire!!! Check out http://www.CloudySkyPulishingLLC.com. We are all in this together.
Are you in contact with support groups? Would the Sacred Heart Center be? Especially for over 60s who are the ones that won’t get ordinary jobs back even after a recovery. Thanks for writing this. Good job.
Lita, I agree with your ideas. Also in Turkey, Unemployment increase everyday and people must be help unemployed people in social and monetary issues and we ( or you ) always unite and go into action. A group of people power is much more than a person!
Just wanted to say thank you again to all who commented. I plan to explore this topic further and in more depth in a subsequent posting. I suspect a great many people are not working what is considered the traditional job: a 40-hour week that starts in the morning and ends in the evening
What a great story, moving and well written. Thank you so much, Lita for your good work. I am sharing it with friends and colleagues who I know will enjoy reading it too.
Grateful,
Elizabeth