How did I miss this? The Wall Street Journal is advising men that they can get more sex if they do more housework.

One husband, Mr. Chethik says in an interview, reported that his wife enjoyed flowers or a candlelit dinner out; but “if he wants to be sure of a romantic evening, he goes for the vacuum cleaner.”

Another husband, a St. Paul, Minn., accountant who describes himself as happily married for 20 years, says housework reflects a deeper bond. Although he does plenty of housework, “to me it’s not the dishes, laundry, vacuuming (or Viagra) that matters,” he writes. Sharing chores reflects a “willingness to hold my wife’s needs and wants on a par with my own. For us, the key to intimacy is the sharing and minimization of selfishness.” His wife, a nurse, agrees, saying that “doing the household chores is certainly part of the sharing.”

Did I copy that right? Was that the “minimization of selfishness”? In the WSJ?

Judith Warner has the perspective and I got to the WSJ piece from her excellent rumination on women’s happiness.