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Tikkun of Sexual Misconduct Issues in Jewish Renewal

We propose exploring a new conceptual model, in which the Feminine Divine is always present, indwelling and never separate from the Whole.

L’shem Yichud: For the Sake of Divine Unity

In response to recent revelations of sexual misconduct and deceit by a rabbi who in recent years has been a highly visible personality within the Jewish Renewal community, much has been spoken about the need within Jewish communities generally to safeguard students and congregants from predatory teachers.  A clear demand has been voiced for open channels through which women who have experienced sexual harassment can register the abuse without fear of dismissal or recrimination.  Renewal organizations have cut their ties to the admitted offender and engaged in a painful bout of soul-searching, some even raising concerns about the possibility that ecstatic Renewal spiritual practices contribute to the risk of interpersonal exploitation and abuse.  Considerable discussion has also been generated about the illness of sexual predators, effective treatment, and the prognosis for rehabilitation.

In the current situation, as in previous instances when a trusted spiritual teacher betrayed that trust through sexual misconduct, the initial shock provoked us to confirm our understanding that when we talk of sexual abuse, we are always talking about violent expressions of power, not sexual desire or pleasure.  We next turned to discussing the importance of insuring open channels of communication, first to acknowledge that, at a minimum, we must open our hearts to the painful stories of the victims, and second, to express our commitment to protect and rescue women from any future risks of predation.  We even questioned, with an eye for complicity, the nature of interpersonal practices encouraged by our well-intentioned but deeply intimate study and prayer gatherings.

Our compassion also encompassed the perpetrator, as we know our own capacity for sinful behavior and our own struggles with mental disorders.  We take to heart our tradition’s emphasis on confession as communal, and so we refused to pretend that the perpetrator-of-the-moment is the only one among us capable of exploitative behavior.  Couching this phase of our discussion in terms of sex addiction and illness represents a generous and necessary step in recognizing the possibility of treatment—however intractable such an addiction may prove to be.

Our discussion may not end here, however, if we seek a long-term tikkun.  If we circumscribe our responses to the bounds of female protection and individual pathology—even while insistently excluding the perpetrator from any ongoing connection to Renewal—we reject the opportunity to ask how his acts can reveal structures of thought in Jewish teaching that enable and sustain inequitable power between men and women. The failure to address these aspects of Judaism makes us accomplices in any such future acts.
   
Jewish Renewal has, to its credit, done much to honor and to integrate the Jewish vocabulary of the Feminine Divine and of female spirituality into our ritual practices and theological teachings.  Unfortunately, much of the deep mythical structure we refer to reflects the inherent patriarchy of our culture.  Until we recognize in the core of our beings, in the core of our theology and practice, that She is integral to Divinity, that She cannot be separated from nor subordinate to any other element of the divine nature, that "meloh kol ha-aretz k'vodo" alludes to a unitary Divine Presence imbedded throughout all Four Worlds, we will continue to support a spiritual-intellectual-emotional-political system that subordinates the feminine and, in significant measure, lays the groundwork for the pathology we have seen acted out in our midst.

When we depict the Feminine Divine, the Shechinah, as exiled, we contribute to abuses of power such as those we have of late been deploring.  How? By depicting her as other, as metaphorically apart from the masculine Godhead, as “weaker than,” as in need of rescue.  We may not do this with the intention of modeling the subordination of the feminine, but the narrative explicitly draws from a cultural context we all recognize as disadvantaging the feminine in relationship to the normative masculine.  We may think we retell this narrative in full awareness of our commitment to male-female equality, but the storyline betrays our progressive impulses.  We image the Shechinah as separated from Ha Kadosh Boruch Hu.  We take comfort in contemplating Her voluntary exile from the wholeness of God, undertaken out of compassion for our own exiles of geography and spirit.  In grateful response, we seek to be agents of divine tikkun and reunification.  As She collects klippot all week long, She depends on our Shabbat preparations to be made pure for her spouse, to be suitable for reunification.  We accept our responsibility, for we recognize the klippot as the detritus left by human blindness to the radiance of divine will, leading us to act against our own wellbeing and that of all creation.  Shomrei Shabbat make possible the Shechinah’s union and integration with her spouse each week; as the Feminine Divine is purified and made welcome, the klippot of the previous week disperse and, in a foretaste of redeemed time, space, and being, we celebrate the opportunity for human consciousness to continue its ascent.

Jews have for hundreds of years offered l’shem l’yichud kudsha brich hu u’sh’chinteh [for the sake of the unification of the Holy One and His Shechinah] as a kavannah for prayer and other mitzvot.   It is now time, for the sake of our own spiritual expansion, to seek out the narrative, interpretive, mythical elements that will permit us to experience this profound kavannah as if fulfilled.  It is time to taste the reality of a fully present divine Wholeness.  At this moment of crisis, we are called by our increasing awareness of unjust inequalities to confront our complacency within the limitations of the inherited paradigm.

We cannot deny the power of previous theological paradigms, but we need to uncover a new one for the unfolding age.  We recognize the healing truth in our sacred stories of divine separation and exile, yearning and return.  We honor the spiritual solace and inspiration arising from imagining Divinity Itself as shattered by the obvious fragmentation of our world, as responding to dislocation as we do, with the soul-deep experience of existential division and the longing for reunification.  As Rabbi Goldie Milgram notes, the comfort derived from imagining such a manifestation of divine alienation, weeping and walking in exile along with us, does not depend on the manifestation’s representation as a female figure.   Alenu: in our day, it is upon us to envision a more inclusive model, in the same way our predecessors repeatedly reinterpreted Scripture to sustain the integrity of Jewish teaching throughout history.

The more inclusive model we are on the verge of discerning does not preclude continued study, meditation, interpretation, or prayer based on any of the older models.  For example, the erotic devotional imagery of Shir ha-Shirim will still inspire some of us, will still reflect some aspects of the limitless range of potential spiritual experience.  Our individual encounters with Mystery will not yield to logic or restraint, any more than those of our ancestors did.  How any one of us relates to the countless ways Divinity may manifest will remain personal and experiential, but we would be spiritually, intellectually, and politically naïve to pretend the social structures of our culture do not sometimes constrain our understanding within familiar, yet no longer accurate, patterns.

What happens when we contend that the Shechinah is not in exile, can never separate or split from the wholeness of God?  First, we address a long-noted problem with the separation and return model—the challenge this model poses to the foundational assertion of divine Oneness:
The kabbalists  .  .  .  recognized the theological danger comprised in it [the problem of the unity of the Shekhinah with the other Sefirot], and in their considerations  of  mystical sin they gave first place—as “the root of rebellion” and as the heretical denial of the principle of the unity of God—to the view that the Shekhinah was a separate power, unconnected with the system of the Sefirot; but they did not deny the possibility of her separation from the system.  The mystery of the mystical union is the mystery of the copulation of the Shekhinah with her husband Tif’eret, that is, of her integration into the system of the Sefirot without separation (see Zohar 1:12a, etc.), and the religious mission of man is to maintain this union with the kavvana of the prayer and the commandments.1 

That is, it’s the unification, not the separation that we are to focus on, as so many of our holy teachers have insisted.  “Ko’ach ha-Po’el benifal,” the power of the Creator resides within each created thing, says Menachem Nachum Twersky of Chernobyl: “God is the fullness of the world; there is no place empty of the divine.  There is nothing besides God and everything that exists comes from God.  And, for this reason, the power of the Creator resides within each created thing.”  “Hu ha-Elohim ein od milvado,” God is God and there is nothing else (Deut. 4:35): says Shneur Zalman of Liady, “because all [the heavens and the earth] are within the dimension of space which is nullified within the being of the Light of Ayn Sof which clothes itself in God’s lowest level of manifestation, the sefirah of Malkhut, which is united in God.”2 Along with the myth of separation, we have inherited the insistent teaching that Divinity is found in the unity of its manifestations. 

Second, in emphasizing unification over separation, we promote a new paradigm necessitated precisely by our commitment to male-female equality and we advance one of Jewish Renewal’s most powerful chidushim, innovations—the conscious pulling forward into our own day of spiritual insights and practices that remain vital and that hold the potential to invigorate Judaism’s evolving reality.  The reality map that traced the cosmology of our ancestors drew comfort from the analogy of their exile to the exile of the Shechinah (identified often as a manifestation of the Household of Israel).  Our new reality map must reflect our determination to reframe Jewish teaching so as to make real the truth that we are all created b’tzelem Elohim to the same degree, whether male or female—each form of human being created in the image of unified Divinity.  As ezer k’negdo one human being to the other, we stand on level ground, panim el panim, heart to heart, at one in the One.

We can no longer avoid noticing that the myth of separation provides a convenient justification for the ongoing silencing and subjugation of women by reinforcing notions of male superiority and with it the potential for abuse.  A diminished Shechinah explains the persistence of women in caretaking roles that leave them easy prey to exploitation at every level: physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.  If we fail to engage this holy question seriously, we will abort the opportunity to look at the way that contemporary Judaism—despite the greater inclusion of women as clergy and teachers—does not adequately manifest the true integration and union of the Divine, and instead, maintains the conceptual split of the sacred into masculine and feminine metaphors that sustain inequity and hierarchy.

We propose exploring a new conceptual model, in which the Feminine Divine is always present, indwelling and never separate from the Whole.  We can begin to ask, how does that change what is either sanctioned or tolerated in terms of the oppression of women’s lives?  How does that change what can be rationalized to mandate the silencing of women as full spiritual authorities, equal to male voices?  What shifts when we redefine “feminine” as anything a female does, as proposed by Prof. Carolyn Heilbrun (z”l) many years ago in her landmark book, Reinventing Womanhood?  What happens when we look beyond physiology as a reality map, if we see beyond gender to a Place of respect for all its complex potentialities?  What happens if we no longer postpone divine yichud to mashiachzeit, to the time of ultimate redemption, but experience it as a present spiritual reality?

We invite our beloved chevre to explore an emerging paradigm of the simultaneous divine masculine and feminine: let us consider what it might mean to understand the Feminine as so intertwined with the nature of creation that it—as do all the elements of Divinity—absorbs and transmits holy illumination in a process that transforms our lives, not only intellectually but in a far more integrated, organic, holistic way that we do not yet fully grasp.  Our tradition transmits to us ample resources for shifting our theology and practices, and we have already begun to open up to the questions we need to ask.  In Renewal circles, we hear constant expression of the yearning for reintegrating male and female, but unfortunately, we have already seen some men teach about integration of the Feminine Divine without simultaneously allowing the truth of those teachings to enter into their own body or surrendering to the radical upheaval  that can follow.  By not allowing the teaching to work in their own lives, such teachers fail to transform themselves, their students have no model for living into the meaning of what they have glimpsed, and nothing changes—although a surface ripple, a frisson of revelation, slides across our consciousness.  Unless the Feminine Divine is embraced and integrated in a transformative way, the project of Jewish Renewal will share in the failure to welcome the Whole of the Unified, Fulfilled and Fulfilling Divinity we assert is clothed in the reality we inhabit.

In one of her more recent books, Karen Armstrong reminds us of perhaps the most brilliant element of our tradition, its respect for the holiness and power of interpretation.  We know, more than many, that “there is never a single, orthodox version of a myth.  As our circumstances change, we need to tell our stories differently in order to bring out their timeless truth.”3   One of the blessings of traditional wisdom, even when it may be temporarily suppressed, is that it carries forward the potential for its own reinterpretation, at such time as a need arises.  We find ourselves in such a time.  To address the most recent shocking predations only in terms of pathology and treatment (or even in terms of sin and t’shuvah) means that the opportunity for the Jewish Renewal community to look at embedded structural inequities is lost.  An untrustworthy and abusive rabbi may well be ill; he has also been enabled to prey on his students as he has because he is male, in a power structure based on male privilege.

To  derive healing from sorrow, we must remind ourselves of the wisdom of Job: “shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil?” (2:10)  Our tradition and our commitment to its evolving vitality give us reason to take heart: in the past, moments of shattering have birthed us into times of re-creation, of renewed understanding, of revelation uncovered.  At this time, conscious of our capacity to reinterpret our tradition into previously unrevealed forms—and aware that this effort may be more than the work of a single life-time—may we begin to raise the questions and seek the insights to re-imagine the “inside of the inside,” the spiritual reality we share with Divinity.  May this difficult moment usher in a time of spiritual creativity and new growth, a time of wholeness and reconciliation rooted in a clearer vision of the One before us.

Sarah Stein, Ph.D., Associate Professor, Department of Communication
Assistant Vice Provost Information Technology
North Carolina State University

Raachel Nathan Jurovics, Ph.D., Assistant Rabbi
Temple Beth Or, Raleigh, NC


© 2006 Rabbi Raachel Nathan Jurovics and Sarah Stein, Ph.D.

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Response to Article on "L’shem Yichud: For the Sake of Divine Unity"

Posted by schalit at June 29, 2006 16:00
Dear Friends:

I have read: L’shem Yichud: For the Sake of Divine Unity by Sarah Stein, Ph.D., and Rabbi Raachel Nathan Jurovics, Ph.D.

It has some excellent theological points, and is very well-written, but I would respectfully disagree with its analysis of clergy sexual abusers and harassers and the best ways to deal with them. I would submit that the authors have missed some points, which they might consider including in future writing on the subject.

Now, their theological suggestion seems to be that we need to junk the traditional Kabbalisitic theology of the Shekinah -- preyed upon by the evil of humanity and the sitra achra on weekdays -- purified and united with the male aspect of G!d on Shabbos -- and develop a theology in which G!d's female and male "halves," so to speak are united.

As a teacher of Kabbalah, and a member of Jewish Renewal, I would be extremely interested in seeing how such a new Kabbalistic theology developed. The idea was explored in a very intriguing and exciting manner, and I hope the authors will write more on the subject. I think it would be a very positive development.

But I would urge the authors to be wary of the idea that elevating the Female Divine in Jewish theology will somehow decrease the number of male clergy abusers -- who abuse women --in Judaism, by somehow altering how they think about women -- if I understand the authors' meaning correctly. I apologize to them in advance, as I am summarizing complex ideas very briefly.

Having been through formal sexual harassment workplace proceedings as an older woman, and having privately advised many women who have been through all kinds of sexual harassment and assault -- I have some comments on the essay:

1. The authors frame the problem, if I read them correctly, as male clergy sexual abusers abusing women. But there are male clergy sexual abusers who abuse young and teenage girls. And there are male clergy sexual abusers also abuse other men and young boys.

There are also women clergy sexual abusers -- not as well publicized as men yet.

So I would invite the authors to look further into articles on clergy sexual abuse in all faiths -- there is plentiful material -- because I think this is not strictly a gender problem.

Certainly, it has roots in gender inequality, as much feminist analysis has shown.

But while the male clergy abusing women is the most visible form of it, I think fundamentally among clergy it is becoming more of an abuse of power problem.

This may call for some different theological analysis.

2. The authors suggest: "Our compassion also encompassed the perpetrator, as we know our own capacity for sinful behavior and our own struggles with mental disorders. We take to heart our tradition’s emphasis on confession as communal, and so we refused to pretend that the perpetrator-of-the-moment is the only one among us capable of exploitative behavior."

I strongly suggest that the authors reconsider the apparent idea -- I may be misinterpreting them -- that "there but for the grace of G!d go I."

I just do not accept that there are dozens of sexual predators among the subscribed readers to Tikkun magazine.

I would hope that very few people reading these words have, as adults, tried to have sex with a child or a teenager. Or grabbed a frightened adult co-worker with no warning and tried to paw or sexually assault him or her.

The "there but for the grace of G!d" analysis comforts perpetrators -- the perpetrators I have dealt with often console themselves with the idea that they are "naughty boys" or "bad girls" and that everyone else is secretly just like them, so they don't need to repent for what they've done. It is a substantial obstacle to getting them to acknowledge what they've done and repent. They are counting on our "compassion" for them.

I know this because I've dealt with workplace perpetrators. And these people weren't even clergy, surrounded by the power and authority and protection of other congregants. But their view of themselves was that they were just "regular folks."

What perpetrators don't understand is that 99.9% of humanity has all kinds of transgressive sex fantasies -- but the rest of us have an understanding of what is appropriate behavior, and set boundaries on ourselves, unlike the perpetrators.

I understand the authors' well-meaning desire to show "compassion." But anyone who has ever been in the grasp of someone like that, alone and at their mercy, can attest that sexual abusers show little or no compassion for their victims. I think compassion for them is gravely misplaced -- at least before they are taken into legal custody.

The "there but for the grace of G!" analysis also prevents victims from coming forward --- victims are much more scrupulous than their predators, and frequently subject themselves to needless bouts of soul-searching and delays in reporting the misconduct and crimes on the grounds that "maybe I have done or fantasized the same things. Maybe I did something to provoke this."

3. The authors hope that a major change in theology will result in a sea change in behavior.

Unfortunately, sexual predators are often quite intelligent, and are happy to mouth the "corporate culture" or "party line" -- change the theology and they will find some way to twist it to support their crimes.

I would guess that the perpetrators will embrace the new Kabbalistic theology of the Shekinah being merged with the male G!d, and exploit it to draw women, men, and children closer to them for criminal purposes.

4. The authors suggest: "Couching this phase of our discussion in terms of sex addiction and illness represents a generous and necessary step in recognizing the possibility of treatment—however intractable such an addiction may prove to be."

This is only half the story. Sexual addiction and sexual predation are not identical. Some sex addicts harm almost no one but themselves, ruining their marriages and relationships through compulsive searches for Internet pornography, or expending large sums of money on visiting prostitutes.

It isn't healthy, and they need help, but they are not a social menace. They are more like alcholics and drug addicts, when their addiction has gone too far. The authors are correct in saying it is "generous" and "necessary" to help some sex addicts get treatment.

Where sexual addiction is combined with habitual and constant predatory behaviors -- not a one-time incident of misconduct or sexual assault -- but an ongoing behavior pattern -- that is a far darker situation. Generosity in that situation is the wrong response.

Generosity towards such abusers may actually harm their victims, giving the predator an easy out -- "I'm an addict!" -- enabling them to evade criminal proceedings and prison by congregations operating on the "addiction" model.

The addiction analysis turns the predator into the victim -- "I'm sick!' -- depriving victims of legal justice, protection, and any sympathy from their fellow congregants, who often cluster sympathetically around their "sick" rabbis.

5. I would suggest that the authors consider the legal and criminal aspects of clergy abuse.
Some of these clergy are sex addicts, or one- or two-time or even three-time sexoffenders. G!d willing, they will respond to treatment and/or prison terms.

But those clergy who have habitually made sexual advances and/or attacked children and teenagers, or used force or coercion or deceptive seduction of adult counseling clients and other legally prohibited categories -- the law is still in flux in this area -- they are likely hardened criminals -- no matter how warm and fuzzy their sermons, music, and books.

In extreme cases, we're talking, at least nowadays: prison terms, plastic ankle bracelets, listings on state sex offender Web registeries, court orders to stay away from schools, and Amber Alerts.

The authors need to take this aspect of clergy abuse into account.

6. Finally, while I am very interested in the authors' model of a Divine Feminine integrated into the Godhead (so to speak) -- I'm not sure that we should rush to discard the suffering Shekinah in exile. Those thousands of women who are victims of sexual harassment and crimes -- both in shul and/or in the workplace and/or daily life -- need Her.

As I read this article, I kept thinking where is the theological comfort for the victims in this article?

If I may -- somewhat presumptuously -- speak for the thousands of voiceless women who dare not speak up for themselves -- if they could speak all at once, they might say:

Where is the theological comfort for our pain? our humiliation? our sometimes damaged sex lives? our frequently ruined reputations and relationships? our often lost jobs? our rejection -- or discounting -- or second round of humiliation -- by secular workplaces or congregations enamoured of the charismatic abusive clergyperson? Where is our healing in this article? Where is our justice?

Where is the remedy for the damaged spiritual lives of women, men and children victimized by their rabbi? And then often disbelieved, or silenced by their fellow congregants and other rabbis?

Traditionally, the Shekinah is depicted in the Kabbalah as having been ravished or seduced or sexually molested by the sitra achra. Our ancestors were comforted in their misery and suffering by the knowlege that a part of G!d suffered as they did, and felt abandoned by the "male" part of G!d like they did -- the Orthodox Tisha B'Av liturgy in particular has a number of themes on this subject.

Perhaps a new Kabbalistic theology might be developed that the suffering Shekinah has suffered as those of us who have been victims of this crime, and we can turn to her for consolation. I have seen indications of this theology in some women's writings.

It may be too soon to elevate Her as the authors of the article would like to. Who will advocate for the crime survivors then?

Sincerely,
Robin Margolis

Response to Sara and Robin

Posted by Whitewave at September 21, 2006 14:50
I consider this conversation to be one of the most important conversations going on in the world right now. The context under which we're having it is localized but it's implications are Universal. The time has, indeed, come.

I am not Jewish. So I humbly request to join this conversation. It is an honor and a privilege. Not my right. I fully recognize that. Truly, this is not a Jewish problem, as it is shared by the entire human race.

If I may join, I would like to say that both of the positions suggested here so far represent two ends of a dilemma. Every problem is located on a level which has two ends that are irresolvable. The only reason we have law to begin with is because we had a problem at the level of power that created two irresolvable interests: us vs. them. Now that we have a problem at the level of law, we have to find a solution on a higher level. This, in turn, will probably create another polarity which will have to be solved later, but the sign of improvement is that it will be a totally new problem and not the same old problems.

The problem at the level of law is that law alone cannot transform character. Here are what I think are the two directions that we are being pulled in here:

Sara's statement: "If we circumscribe our responses to the bounds of female protection and individual pathology—even while insistently excluding the perpetrator from any ongoing connection to Renewal—we reject the opportunity to ask how his acts can reveal structures of thought in Jewish teaching that enable and sustain inequitable power between men and women."

Robin's statement: "I would suggest that the authors consider the legal and criminal aspects of clergy abuse. Some of these clergy are sex addicts, or one- or two-time or even three-time sexoffenders. G!d willing, they will respond to treatment and/or prison terms... As I read this article, I kept thinking where is the theological comfort for the victims in this article? "

These statements tell me that we are not yet including enough truth to solve the problem on the table here. We have to go higher.

Theology already speaks about the solution as it stands right now. As I googled the term "Sitra Achra" out of curiosity, I was amazed at how brightly it stands out:

"In the end, even the bad turns into good, as it will in time to come, when "I will remove the impure spirit from the earth" (Zecharya 13:2) "and G-d will be one and His Name one""

http://www.headcoverings-by-devorah.com/HebglossS.html

Theology is both the very Ground as well as the Goal of Religious Myth and our only hope of having the upper hand in the duality of the manifest realm. I am in awe at how the Kabbalist Tradition spans this so beautifully while remaining open at both ends so as to be ready to include more! But the Theology will not be the solution itself, because that implies that the Theology will have the necessary power to direct our impulses and behaviors. Part of what it means to Unite G!d with the manifest and humanity is the transcendence of Law itself because both the motivation and power to direct our impulses will be contained within and united with our very lives and consciousness.

This transcendence will include the critical element of Goodness, but leave behind the power struggle. The suggestion that in doing away with enforcement we leave the door open for evil is not valid as long as we see that the goal is the transformation of character, not Good dominating or having more power over Evil. However, this transcendence also leaves behind the partial solution of equality before the law since power will no longer be an issue. Who needs equality when character has been transformed?

So the solution, I believe, is located higher up within the realm of transformation of character. And representation of this is not lacking in the Kabbalist Tradition either. Truly, the word "Tikkun" is the very sound of this solution!

When I read the definition of the term "Sitra Achra", I recognized in it something I concluded within the last week. I have no idea if I am committing an offense in this, but I occasionally change the wording of the Scripture to reflect a new interpretation that I'm playing with. Then I let it sink in for a while to see how well it fits. I think I've really come up with a good one here, but truly, no offense is intended:

"Could it be that when the non-dual contracted to G!d, G!d contracted an Extreme Good which in turn left a Shadow of Extreme Evil and this was the beginning of the duality which He then contracted US to have the upper hand over?

““Then G!d said, 'Let us make humankind as our reflection, according to our likeness; and let them have the upper hand within the duality which we have created.'
So G!d created humankind as his/her reflection,
as the reflection of G!d he/she created them;
male and female he/she created them.”
~Genesis 1:27”"

Together, male and female, we solve this problem. And as it so happens, the imbalance of power between the male and female gives us the exact picture of how we get to solve it. In power games, there is a perpetrator and a victim. When we are without motivation and power to do good, we fall under a sort of spell which blinds us to the possibility of evil beyond what is defined by the law. We think that the crime is defined by the written code: "Thou shalt not commit adultery." So adultery - having sex outside the bounds of marriage - is the boundary of the crime. Those who look deeper into the Character of G!d know better. The actual problem begins way, way before any act is performed. It is actually located inside the character of the human being. In the motivation and power center. Robin shows us that she is under this spell when she says:

"I just do not accept that there are dozens of sexual predators among the subscribed readers to Tikkun magazine... I would hope that very few people reading these words have, as adults, tried to have sex with a child or a teenager. Or grabbed a frightened adult co-worker with no warning and tried to paw or sexually assault him or her. "

Predation is much bigger than that. Predation is any kind of leveraging which bypasses or overrides the free will of another in order to feed the needs of the predator. The naked truth is that we all do this. All of us. And, we probably all do it in some way to advance our sexual needs regardless of the level of that leverage or the extent of the law. Sexual predators such as this man:

Ross Jeffries
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ross_Jeffries

...represent a deeply Shadowed impulse which we all have - to acquire the connection and union that we need - and his popularity (far beyond tolerance or compassion!) represents the screaming need for us as a species to INTEGRATE this Shadowed impulse before it becomes any more destructive. The sensation in my gut when I think of integrating what this man stands for is so repulsive it makes me want to vomit! And that is exactly why I believe it is real and correct. This kind of behavior has to stop! And the only way it's going to stop is if we reverse the contraction and figure out how to make the neutral part of it work itself into the duality in a more constructive way. I believe Shadow Work transforms the character, making the impulse less dark and contracted and more neutral so that law becomes unnecessary.

Then the "end" spoken of in Zecharya 13 will come.

Then no one, either perpetrator or victim, will any longer require mere consolation, but will actually have joy.

---oOo---

I have been powerfully effected by the teaching as well as the downfall of the teacher in question and I have done alot of personal work on myself as a direct result of it. My own transformation is progressing rapidly and am grateful for this. I have also been a victim of sexual predation in it's individual as well as institutionalized form, so I am not without a felt need for consolation.

---oOo---

Thank you for considering my participation in this conversation.
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